Women don’t usually get any special treatment when they’re on their moon cycles. We have to get up, show up, keep calm and carry on. Even if we are grumpy, irritated, bloated, cramping and exhausted.
You may think we don’t have another option, but we do! As women, we don’t have to view our period as a negative thing that we resent every month. We can actually try to change our perspective and learn to turn our period time into a restful, gentle, enjoyable few days.
How, you may ask?
By showing yourself some self-love. Here are some great ideas to give yourself some lady love when your body needs it the most:
Spend time with supportive women
“I love my husband, but it is nothing like a conversation with a woman that understands you. I grow so much from those conversations.” –Beyonce
Have you ever spent a night with close girlfriends and felt like you really ‘needed’ the girl time? That’s because women need other women for understanding, nurturing, growth, support and caring. You can’t have deeper level conversations with some men because they are simply not women. Women are driven by emotions and many men, aren’t. Deep bonds with other females are vital for our mental health and emotional clarity. Psychology Today references an article stating that ‘women feel they can count on their friends to pull through for them no matter what they are struggling within their lives.’
Organise a catch up with a female you trust and are close to when you start to feel your PMS coming on. Buy a block of chocolate and curl up on the couch for a nice, supportive chat.
Eat nourishing foods
Eating shitty food, can make you feel even shittier. It’s not rocket science. We’re not saying skip the chocolate and ice cream you crave when you’re on your period, because they can be a delicious vice that helps you get through! We’re just suggesting you make sure you’re eating foods high in nutrients as well. Fresh food, and fruits and veggies can give you all the vitamins, minerals and energy your body needs to function at its best.
Take a bath
There is nothing more relaxing than laying in a warm bath, with a few drops of nice-smelling essential oil, candles gently lighting the room, and your favourite chill music playlist on. Treat yourself to some epsom salts in the bath to give your body a dose of magnesium. Magnesium is known to help relax muscle tension and may reduce the pain from cramps and headaches associated with periods or PMS.
Do things you love
What are your favourite things to do when you just want to chill? For some it’s reading a good book under a shady tree in the park, or on the coach with a cup of herbal tea and a Netflix series. Others may love to get crafty to their favourite tunes, or take long, slow sunset walks.
Write down a list of things that bring you a feeling of fullness and keep the list handy for those days you need some ‘you’ time. We can get so caught up in what we feel like we have to do, we forget to make time for the things we love to do!
Yoga and meditation
Finding a place of stillness is really important. Many find their stability, clarity and stillness through sitting in meditation or through moving meditation like yoga, Tai Chi and even hiking. Creating a regular practice of this kind of self-love can be truly life changing. As you tune into your breath and tune out of the thoughts, it can provide a space where you connect deeper to your consciousness and the present moment. This helps create a calming and a softness in the body and the mind. Which can really help when we’re feeling so irritated we could bite someone’s head off…
They say writing can be very therapeutic. Our heads are so full of thoughts, ideas, worries and dreams - no wonder it can get quite overwhelming. The University of Rochester Medical Centre says journaling can be an effective way to deal with overwhelming emotion and a helpful tool to manage mental health. Journaling can improve your mood by:
- Helping you prioritise problems, fears, and concerns
- Tracking any symptoms day-to-day so that you can recognise triggers and learn ways to better control them
- Providing an opportunity for positive self-talk and identifying negative thoughts and behaviours
How do you start?
Buy a sweet little notebook, plot down your worries or concerns or sketch/drawer it out. Don’t worry about what you’re putting on the pages, no one else needs to see it. Journaling is a personal form of expression so just start writing!
We all need a little self-love now and then, especially when we’re going through tough periods. We hope you’ve managed to find some inspiration in the ideas above! If you have any of your own techniques for self-love, we would love to hear from you! Join our community group on Facebook - Click Here - and post your ideas in the group.